What else? Yes. - [audience members speaking] - [Dan] Worry you're going to forget something. The point of the thing, the thing you want to communicate, the point of what you want to say, yes! What else? Last one, give me one. - [audience members speaking] - [Dan] Worry you talk too much. And you do talk too much, by the way. [audience laughing] Listening, right? The listening https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3548353/You-raped-thought-trust-Disturbing-campaign-warns-high-schoolers-dangers-assaults-college-shocking-fake-acceptance-letters.html, I was sharing that with you. What else? How else do you feel? Dev, give me one! - [audience members speaking] - [Dan] Huh? - [audience members speaking] - [Dan] Oh, don't like people looking at you. Okay, don't like people looking at you.
Now, let me, first of all, here's what doesn't work. The typical advice, people tell you that, you know, you want to picture your audience and they're naked or in their underwear. [audience laughing] How many of you have heard of that? All right, okay, now. Depends on who you're https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/sexual-assault-awareness-campaign-puts-a-dark-twist-on-acceptance-letters_us_571545b8e4b0060ccda40b78 speaking to, it could either be too exciting or too terrifying. Both are not good, okay? No, don't picture your audience in their underwear or naked, it's not good, okay? And it's not like, oh, you know, you want to drink your green tea before, or you want to meditate.
No, no, no, I'm not talking about that. So, let me give you three, how many? - [audience] Three! - [Dan] Quick mental fixes. What I personally do. What I personally do. Now, nowadays when I go up to the stage, I don't get nervous any more. Not one bit. Not like even a little bit https://www.usatoday.com/story/college/2016/04/21/watch-fake-college-acceptance-letters-highlight-sexual-assault/37417101/, none. And I'll share with you why. So, three quick mental fixes to deal with stage fright. Number one: focus on the audience, not yourself. If you feel anxious, if you feel anxiety, if you don't like people looking at you, if you're afraid you're going to say the wrong things, you're afraid you don't sound smart enough,
you're afraid that nobody's going to show up, you're afraid that nobody's going to listen to you, or you're going to offend somebody, all this stuff is what? - [audience members speaking] - [Dan] Yeah, it's about you. It's all internal. Do I look good? Do I sound smart? http://time.com/4300008/college-acceptance-letter-ad-campus-sexual-assault/ What are they going to think of me? Are they going to like me? It's all me, me, me, me, does that make sense? Yeah, so stop being so selfish! Don't be so selfish. Focus on the audience. Think, if your focus is external, if, this is why I don't get nervous any more, here's why I don't have a music stand. Because I don't care if I say everything that was meant to say,
it was said perfectly, that's not important for me. Looking good is not important for me. 'Cause I focus on the audience. That's it. My focus is external. Are you getting value? Are you walking away with value? That is it. I don't give a fuck if you like me or not https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/sexual-consent-ads-1.3810475. I truly do not care. I truly do not care. 'Cause it's not my job! My job is to teach and to help you grow. If you like me, that's nice, you might resonate with the message a little bit more, but that's not what I'm here for. That's not what I'm here for.
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